I honestly feel like dating has become something way more complicated than it needs to be. There are too many rules. And it's not like these are universal hard and fast rules, either... It's like when you go play cards at a friends house for the first time, and they play in completely different way than you do. Each guy has his own set of rules, and they don't let you know what they are until you break them. Whatever happened to "Gee, Billy Sue, I really like you, will you go steady with me?" I guess when we got the vote, we gave up the right to simplicity in dating?
My friend Amber told me "Date like a man, so you don't get played like a bitch." Charming advice. And if that works for you, go for it. However, I'm the monogamous type for the most part, I just can't find anyone who doesn't suck. Although, Toast has pointed out on several occasions I tend to go for guys who are unattainable for whatever reason. He has a point (The Cookie Monster, The Ginger DJ, The OG... There's a definite pattern there.) And, perhaps that is part of the problem.
For me, the real issue is, most guys either say I'm
way too interested, or
not interested at all. What I take away from that is, you have to walk a very fine line between calling too much, and not calling enough, not wanting too much too fast, but not appearing disinterested. Men are a lot like deer. Big, Smelly, and easily spooked.
Then again, with the right person, shouldn't that all go out the window?
Sufficed to say, I am no closer to the answer to that question than I was when I was sixteen... But, given how terrified I am of Vaginas, I guess I'll just keep looking for the right guy... Or Cybernetic organism from the future.
Until next time, Dear Reader, May The Fierce Be With You!
"Live! Live! Live! Life is a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death!"
Then again, with the right person, shouldn't that all go out the window?